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To quote from “A Vision
in Power and Glory” by John Kehoe:
“Self-love is not
vanity. It is as necessary to our being as air and food.
It is our duty to love
and accept ourselves deeply, totally, unconditionally.
To heal ourselves of
all shame, regret and bitterness.
If we desire to know
our dignity and nobility we must learn to love
And appreciate the
miracle of what we are this very
moment.
Our search for meaning
and harmony in the universe can begin nowhere else but with
ourselves.
Wounds heal when we
forgive ourselves and others for our humanness.
When we allow ourselves
and others to fail and make mistakes, to
not be perfect.
When we recognise our
vulnerability and fragility, and, far from feeling these are
weaknesses, we see this as part of who we are.
We are special and
beautiful because of our humanness, not in spite of it.”
Unfortunately most of
us focus on the parts of us we don’t like AND as the world can be a
mirror of what we think, feel, talk about etc , I ask you all: what
does that mirror say to you about your relationship with yourself?
Are you saying loving
things to yourself or are they generally critical comments?
Can you think of 10
things you don’t like about yourself???
15?
20?
How about easily
listing ten things you love about yourself?
15?
20?
Which one of the 2
questions above was easier for you to do?
Our self esteem is
directly impacted by our opinion of ourselves.
Many people rely on
others (especially those closest to them) to fill their self esteem
for them and make them feel good about themselves. These good
sensations may only be momentary as every event or interaction will
impact on how they feel. They therefore become puppets to other’s
moods, be those moods bad or good.
HOWEVER IF WE LOVE
OURSELVES:
How we view the world
around us starts to change.
Other’s
behaviours
become exactly that: they are other’s
behaviours! They no longer impact as
radically on how we feel inside.
When we love ourselves
enough; we will not do anything to self, or allow anyone else, to
act in a way that is against self-love.
We develop stronger
boundaries.
And as you change your
feelings towards yourself, you will notice that you start to change
your thoughts towards the people around you…..And at the same time
other’s judgment or views on your
behaviours becomes less important
as you know who you are and what you are worth. The world truly can
be a mirror of what we internally think, feel and believe!
So
how do we develop and grow our self love?
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Know thyself-
we all want to feel joyful, loved, beautiful, harmonious etc but
very few of us know what makes us feel joyful, loved, beautiful or
harmonious etc (to name a few emotions).
Start by
writing a list of what makes you feel joyful, loved, beautiful,
harmonious etc
Then write a list labeled:
“What I like most about myself is…..Write down everything you can
think of….physically, emotionally, mentally, your talents, your
gifts, every single little thing you have ever achieved or been
proud of…. AND keep on adding to your list as the days go by!
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We are all special,
unique and deserving. It’s up to you to take the time to see your
own special magnificence. Fall in love with yourself (AND all of
you.) Become the solution for you! Fill yourself up with love and
for many, emotional eating will disappear! Daily look into
your own eyes in the mirror and say:” I love and accept you
completely”.
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Become aware of your
own internal talk….what do you say to yourself? What do you think
about? Become your own observer….and when you are conscious of
something you are saying or thinking that is negative: STOP the
thought or words in their tracks and change it to something more
positive!
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From the moment you
open your curtains in the morning start giving thanks! Do you know
that there is ALWAYS something to be thankful about, no matter how
bad a day may feel? IF it’s raining give thanks for the roof over
your head………IF the sun‘s shining give thanks for the beautiful
day! Our life is truly what we choose to focus on………
Inner happiness is a choice.
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Make the start of
each day be a time for acknowledging and having GRATITUDE for ALL
that you are already. Affirm good things about and FOR yourself.
Become your own best friend.
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Learn to be in THE
NOW, in the moment. So often we waste so much of our energy and
time focusing on what may happen, that we stop enjoying the
moments that we are experiencing. Do you know that over 90% of
what the average person worries about never happens?
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Inner happiness is
the fuel of success and only YOU can create it for YOU! We all
want love and want happiness AND the beauty is that you can begin
from where you are right now
(no matter your weight, circumstances, job, financial situation,
relationship status etc)…..break yourself free. Focusing on
what you want, will make what you don’t want fall away. Anything
that makes you feel good draws in more good. CHOOSE to experience
joy, love, happiness etc….and in no time at all, you will be
creating more and more of these positive feelings in your life.
Just like an exercise
program or course of study; truly loving our self is a continuum of
growth and for some the changes will be fast and extreme and for
others it may take a little longer. I say to you all,
persevere!
And In this process, BE FLEXIBLE – have
funJ.
Please send any questions, comments
or queries to
info@weight-masters.com. I will endeavour to return your mail
within 48hours.
Best regards and wishing you a
wonderful NovemberJ
Lesley Wood
021-4182843
082 3 782 782
www.weight-masters.com
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